I have been thinking a lot about friendships over the past few weeks. Thinking back over the years, I've had a lot of friends. One's I went to school with, childhood friends, friends I made due to my parents being friends with theirs, friends at clubs.. the list is endless!

It brings me to think of the people I can call friends now. I'd say I had a small handful of friends, which I see and contact regularly. But it makes me sad to think of some friendships that just aren't there anymore due to drifting apart, not being on the save wave length anymore.. etc.

This also brings me to think of the friendships that I ended myself. Some vary between a disagreement or to the way I was being treated. After so many years of putting up with the way I have been treated by people, to the point were it would really upset me, I have learned to let go.

I'm a firm believer in "treat people how you want treated yourself", even though sometimes I do tend to stress and take it out on the people I love most (sorry mum and dad!). At one point, an old friend was treating me horribly, but when I questioned them they would blame it on my mental health problems. It just made me snap, I knew there and then I didn't need them in my life. So I messaged them and told them the truth. I think the truth hurt them, but I needed them to see how they were being, and that it's certainly not okay.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, you won't keep all your friends forever. I still speak to my old friends when I bump into them, but it's not enough to reignite a friendship. I think making friends when you're an adult can be hard. But I'm happy how things are right now, with my small bunch of friends and currently making some new ones through the blogging world.

And if you need to end a friendship, that's okay too.

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